I agree with all of u, havn a culture is sumtng good and I love most of the tngs about our culture and iam proud of it, but again people change tngs in the way they want it and they name it as our culture this is wer the confusion comezzz, I heard some people who are not afghans but they hear about our culture and they see our people doin the opposite tng and say oh u no watt this is afghan culture. Wat nonsense if u dnt no sumtng just kep ur mouth shut u dnt have to chat balabala. About khatem omg dnt ask me im so fed up seen all thez tng, most of our people just simply care about their reputation, they spent money ke nameshan baraya, dey don’t do it bakhter savab. Coz if is for savab they wod give that money to someone that needs it rather than making a big party and callin it khatem.    

If they still wnana do a khatem I tnk they shod kep it simple, yak afternoon basha, va yak chand nafara khabar konan, yak dowa konan ke rohe morda shad shava, this is it really. And ohh the people plz people y do u have to get dress like that is lyk kodam arose meran.

This was my view , tnx qandem such a nic topic.i am w8 for more discussion regarding this topic.   

ok les discus sumtn else

vaqti yak zan shavaresh fawt mekona va bewa mesha chura da culture ma megan o zan dega bayad arosi nakona? do u guyz tnk this is ryt?

my view: i tnk ke e gufta bekhi qalat asta, chura arosi nakona, why aya o zan dil nadara,aya teflakash ba padar neyaz nadara , specially if the women is young and oshtokaysham ham khord, o ba yak hamra/hamraz neyaz dara.   

bakhter azi ke shavaresh fawt  kada o bechra ham bayd ta akher omer tana basha,  vaqti ke avladash arosi kadan baz ki jamesh khad kad/ imagin aga oshtok ham nadasht basha ta kaye o ra relitive ya padar madarm jam khad kad. so i tnk its necessary for a bewa women to get mariid again.

i am watin for ur viewz

tnx

K Jaan ,

I dont think thats true. I bleive that if in islam after 40 days of her husbands death , the wife is allowed to have normal life... . . . . even marriage.  

true sayn and i agree with u qand but most of our people say ne bad asta, mardom che khad guft and this and dat  which i tnk it shod be chnage chon kolagi haqe zendagi kada va yak zendagi arama dara.

As for what i know and seen in our culture in such case they do let her marry but within thier own family members like Death persons Brother in most cases but i have seen uncles too, It happens bcuz the family thhinks she is There Pride Namoos or Ghairat

 As for the islam hmmm i think its more then 40 days that must be for a husband well sorry i got to research about it, after the completion of specified time she is allowed to marry in islam and she can marry any one with her own choice.  

Omg hatda evare adam ham bash dile adam bad mesha che berasa ke uncle basha omg omg  I hav neva seen such a tng in my whole lyf, dats just disgusting  . I tnk ke e kar bekhe dewanagi asta , y doin such a tng toba toba

Com on of course ke bad asta, is like u cnt w8 lol , for sure is nt 40 days/ it shod be more than dat but I mean ke the women shod be allowd/ and she shod choose sumone da dile khod this is it.

tnx for ur Opinion ajmal jan

im w8 for oders, com on people where are u.