--- quoted from "Maria2001" -

dear Friendly boy,

let me bother you with my long reply, because discussing such things cannot finish in one word.

you asked nice question, but remember one thing, that you gonna live with that one you'll be married, NOT we, so that is why try to listen to your heart, it is very nice to see how do others think, but still 99% u have to decide,

but, remember one thing, if the one have TASSIL, it does not mean she/he is best, because most important thing is TARBIA. as well looking, but still here i guess it is not correct to advise you, because i know a people who are so great, pure, honest wives, but they are not happy just because they do not have that much pretty face as their husbands want. so it is in your hands, if you think you'll will be happy next to PARI, then find her, if you do not care about look, then try to find someone who has beautiful inner look, i mean heart, as well never forget, find that one whom your heart WANT, not situation, in such moment try to listen to your heart, trust me, it will never say wrong.

ask you heart,

i know it is some how impossible, but trust me, when the day will come you will feel it, put your life in Allah's hands and ask him KHAIR, and you will never make mistake.

you know each of us has own way f life, and own way of meeting people and loving, some one feel love after long time knowing each other, some one just say they love, because they are friends, and some one can feel love in one second, when you meet that especial one, your heart say, THAT IS ... whom i was waiting for.

wait for her and you will find the one whom your hear is waiting.

i wish you all the best! always trust yoour self, and never say you cannot, or it will not happen, say you will do, and you can. and you'll find the ESPECIAL one, if not today, then tomorrow.

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thanx alot for ur wonderful advises. well i have been in to relationships in the past so i really have the idea that wat kind of girl can make a good wife. i was in love with this girl she was my first love in america. she is my relative. before i tell her some how this other girl who i rejected told her that i have feelings for her and she got mad and told her mom that was my first ever love and i still love that girl belive me. i can't marry her and since i can't marry her i have no interst in marrying some one else now. not at the moment may be when iam 30 or over that i might but for now iam soo not in to marriage stuff. i love my life the way it is.

maria jan u didn't answer my questions u gave me sweet advises and good things that i should know. so plz tell me what kind of mate u would like.

by the way thanx alot for all that i really appraciated it.

Salam daer Friendly boy,

so you are still asking me this question,

you know what, i got one important thing in life, that we should never plan, about such things, for example, which kind of mate should i have,

but still i thin i can answer your question:

perfectness for me is not good looking, money, even eduction, for me the perfect one is the one who has heart, pure and clean heart. this is the only thing i can say..

that is it.

as well wanted to day, never lose your hope, BANDE ALLAH has to have hope.

and remember one thing, what ever happens, happens for better.

you know mostly when we do not get things we want, we think it was the ideal one, but when we get it, we understand that we were wrong, so please do not make yourself think that she was your ideal. maybe she wasn't. i am sorry if i hurt you, as i do not know the whole story and i do not ask you say this, as i know such things are so private, but still, it is not the end of life.

--- quoted from "lovelymariam" -

i wish you all the best! always trust yoour self, and never say you cannot, or it will not happen, say you will do, and you can. and you'll find the ESPECIAL one, if not today, then tomorrow.

 @ Desi..Yes I did read it desi Jaan

and Iam  reading it again just cause u said so!

And I agree with her still so what is ur point jaan?

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u really didnt get the point...??? y dont i think so...i soo think u got it.. but just pretending n playing innocent...

well ill tell ya wen we talk tomm... till then u think it over again.. n then tell me if ne bells ring..   ;)

Oh whateva Desi.

Just SHUSH and help out freindly boy here.

alrite... i got my asnwer... thatz all...

n reading this post .. i dont think friendly boy is sure of wat he wants... first he wants someone... then he say .. he had some1 n cant think of getting ne1 eles.. i think his emotions are all mixed up.. first he  will have to knw wat he really wants ... then only can his problems will be solved...

no offence.. hope i didnt hurt ne1's feelings...

take care peeps. bye 4 now