I’m from Scandinavia and discovered that there is something most scandinavian girls can not offer. Girls here are generaly spoiled and extremly individualistic. I believe that a mariage should be a unity where you identify yourself as a part in this union of man and wife. This means that you should think about what’s best for the relatiomship. Your partners needs are your needs.
So I got this idea about going to Afghanistan, stay there for a while, hopefully fall in love, and invite her to Scandinavia. I’m aware that this is not a small thing. It would demand alot of investment from my part. She would need time to learn my language and to get established her in Scandinavia. I will have full economic responsibility for her etc. I would need to learn her language to make communication easier and to better take part in her culture.
Do you think this is a good idea?
Don’t telling us bullshit
First of all what religion do you believe in?
As I am sure you must be aware the Afghanistan is an islamic state, therefore everyone is muslim apart from a minority number of hundus which still belongs to afghanistan but they are sikh,
Second of all it would be impossible for such a thing to happen, you do not know much about the afghan women and their culture, tradition and customs, therefore I am telling you that it wornt happen and besides it will never work, trust me I have come across many people that marry eachother, and are from diff cultures and religions, it never worked out, ALSO afghan women worn’t marry someone who is not an afghan, it is now common nowadays to marry someone else who might be quite close in terms of culture, language and traditions and mostly it is pakistanis,
You do know parents have say in thier offsprings partner therefore it is highly common that children tend to carry out the wishes of their parents, and it is very unlikely for an afghan to agree to marry his daughter off to someone who is not an afghan… it takes a lot of courage even marrying a pakistani. Your doctrine sounds good, but don’t try, becuase I am advising it will not work, you will just come out empety handed. and feeling upset, I am sure you can find a decent Scandinavian girl, and also what you say about them, may not be right so do not generalise such a think to the vast of population.
That was my advise, as an Afghan and Pashtana.
good luck, but if i were you I would be ready for the dark side.
First of all , hii and welcome
Just like Maryam said, Afghanistan is an islamic country.
I don’t know what kindda religion you believe in, for being able to marry an Muslim women u have to be a muslim to. U have to be aware that ist not possible to meet and date in Afghanistan. (for you to get to know her better and fall in love ). You also can’t bring an afghan women with you. Before you invite her to Scandinavia you guys should be married. And therefore u have go to the girls familie and ask for her hand. And for asking someones hand u have to go with your parents or someone else, like a aunt or uncle ( someone thats older than you ). And for this its important to understand to language and know about the culture and religion. And then, when you’re going back to Scandanavia, is it possible for you to bring her with you or does she has to wait in Afghanistan until you can invite her to Scandanavia?
There are a lot of things you should think about, because its not just something u can do. My advice is to not do it. I don’t think it would work. And about the Scandanavian girls, not everybody is the same. Don’t label every girl because moste might be like that. ;)
Good luck Ando
white male or white whatever 99% of afghans are muslims so in our religion its not allowed to marry any one but muslim so if you are a muslim believer who believes in oneness of God and you believe that the prophet mohammad peace be upon him is the last messenger of God and that you do not believe jesus peace be upon him was God or son of God and that you follow the teachings of islam then it shouldnt be a problem for you finding an afghani girl indeed our afghan women are the house maker and the man maker they stand up behind their man in all the hardest times and they work harder then our men and they are so devoted in their marriage and in their love for their husband if you have heard that expression behind every successful man is the hand of a women this is true in most of the cases of afghan women from their educated ones to the illiterate ones and most of al they are smart the smartest women around i can say this with confidence cuz i have traveled the world so if you are not a believer and if you go and try to get married with one of them most probably you cant find any one but if you do find any one they well trick you once you take them to the west they well kick you out of your own house lol
Thank you everyone for your answers!
I was born a Christian but I never really had any faith and I left the Church many years ago. I’m a scientist and study nature. I believe in something but I can’t define what that is.
After reading your comments I think you are right, it’s not a good idea for me to try find love in Afghanistan.
Another thing that bothers me with the west is the materialistic way of thinking. Alot of people value themself (and others) after what car they drive or what clothes they wear. I’m rich so this issue has become a big problem for me. That’s another reason why I’ve been looking into Afghanistan, as I believe the Afghan culture in many ways have what I’m searching for.
What do you think of Iran? I’ve met a few iranian exchange students and they did not seem to care for religion.
Your welcome Ando,
So you do not have a faith… hmmm you are more than welcomed to Islam :)
You believe in something but you can’t define what it is. that is quite contrroversal :L but interesting,
We wanted to give you the best possible advice and especailly first hand advice as we are afghans therefor we know them well ;P
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm materialistic ways of thinking…. I bet many people think that way, thats why world interms of wealth can do a lot of wicked things to you.
Hm…. Iranians are good but they are wayyyyyyyyyy diff to afgs, and they like to be like westerns, especially the ones that have a little freedom, they have total morlas and values of the west, I do not like to generalise that but that is how I see them, from every experience and from close iranian friends.Yeah true they do not really valuse religion,
my dear scientist…there is a divine system in place nd u ll get wat u r destined for….these things happen by default…not by design
I’ll tell you why I believe in something but can not define it.
As I grew up I was fed with the theory of evolution. Later in life I discovered some strange things about it. They are many but I can mention some of them.
First of all macroevolution (one species dividing into two) has never been observed.
If there was an evolutionary force, it would require mutations that benefits the survival of a species. I’ve never observed or heard of such a mutation.
There are some observations in nature that I find controdicts the theory of evolution. For example, take a look at these two squirls:
They look similar indeed but one of them is a marsupial while the other is a metatherian. This means (acording to the theory of evolution)that one of them are more related to for example elephants while the other one is more related to the kangaroo THAN THEY ARE TO EACHOTHER.
Nature is beutiful. A cell is a very small thing. In this cell there is an even smaller cellcore. It’s in this cellcore that the DNA has it’s place. The DNA is the biggest and most complex molecule ever found. It’s so tightly packed in the cellcore, that if you unpack it, lay it on a line, it would be a 40km long line. Are you telling me that evolution created this? No way, there has to be a creator.
Differences is going to be one of the biggest problems here :P talking to her parents etc etc is going to be another issue :P for an Afghan to marry a Dalkhor a.k.a Pakistani is taking a big step :P It isn’t an impossible task but I can almost guarantee you it won’t happen …their are too many factors involved …Religion/Custom/FAMILY are huge and I stress FAMILY are going to be the biggest obstacles to go overcome
I don’t care how good of a Muslim a Pakistani or Indian is….but if one of these guys came around my house asking for my sisters hand…..their would be an ass beating involved…and I can guarantee you these mofo’s would be walking out limping …I mean their is also that sense of being Afghan…do I really want my neice and nephew and sister around a person that is a part of another society with a different flag and culture ?
lol Afghanistan Zindabad :P
Sweetheart Rogue, I would kindly like to request you not talk to about pakistanis in general like that, You are so rude! How can you generalise when you have not met a good and bad pakistani, my family is a very strict afghan pashtun family, and we know this pakistani family, who knows us inside out and we know them inside out, they are the most incredible people I have met in my life! in terms of islam, religion! they are very promsing people ( this family i am talking about) and to tell you he has proposed to me, I do find it disheartening what you said, because I dislike every afghan I have met so far, I liked my cousin soo much, you can see I have a thread about him, but after finding out what kind of person he is! I was like with a big NO! that does not mean I am going to generalise that to every afghan. And you are so bloody narrow minded why the fuck would you beat thier ass! when they think you are good people as a result they want to be part of you by asking for one of your family member’s hand! I really hate afgs for this reason they are always criticsing pakistanis yet they don’t know thier own problems! I sometimes have fight with my dad for this matter!
I really did found your comment offensive calling them dalkhor! what the fuck has afghans done to call them with such a big pride! what has stupid afghans done for their own people! what has afghanistan done for me! my grandparents came here via pakistani! you absoulte prick! wallah you have made me soo angry! every fucking afghan I have a come across now is trying to be like an Irianian yet iran beat thier asses out!
such losersss afghans are ! and yes I am an afghan and admitting it!
I really do hate you Rogue! Not that I am defending pakistanis, but you turely are being a prick! please next time you utter something think before it!
Also Rogue why don’t you reflect on the teachings of the person who is an example of how we should live: Muhammad PBUH, has said to mix with other groups and spread out to creaty unity and better ummah! you are just a narrow minded afghan who does not think before they say something!
I spent 2 days in Lahore Fucking Pakistan with my Uncle…just traveling all over the world….we had to head back to Peshawar and then back to Afghanistan from their….none of these mother fuckers would give us a Hotel…
our what about getting stopped every 5 mins in Peshawar because some Dalkhor cop has an agenda against Afghans…
good for you, get married to a Pakistani rofl…I don’t give a shit
Don’t worry….it’s not just Pakistani’s I am singling out …it’s these niggas in Iran as well rofl…
I feel sorry for your dad lol…the fact that you fight him over the matter lolz
best of luck Mariam Joon….rofl srry I don’t know how to say that in Urdu … :P
Wallaj you are such a KHAR! you do know not all pakistanis are urdu! wallah If I was near you I would slap you so bad! every country has its own way of dealing and doing stuff, I have heard about all the stopping and crap, I don’t care it is their way! ok and you have no right to change it because it is thier country! alhtough they should welcome others.
You really need to use rofl less often and at the right time,
FUCK off don’t feel sorry for my dad! its not a matter of fight, I just used the wrong wording there, debating!
Wallah you are such a prick, I wish you the best of luck in the future, maybe you will go and beg in pakistan!
I am not worrying about anything! I just had the fact that we stupid afghans penalise others yet we don’t understand our own crap!
You are a one narrow minded creature!
okay babe….you don’t even know me…you don’t even know what I do for a living…and how much of an education I have had…but you are so quick to anger yourself and call anyone that disagrees with you uneducated
you know I don’t even think you are Pashtun…because if you were you’d already know your kids would automatically be referred to as Pakistani in Afghanistan with a Pakistani father
I actually think you are only arguing just for the sake of arguing…
maybe your trying to find a reason as to why it’s okay to Marry a Dalkhor…by being suck a bitch to me????
Control youself! with what you say! you are so disrespectful, tell me about your education I am interested.
maybe that will reflect upon your considerable reaons!
Will you stop with dalkho, I just ate dal!!!!!!!
lol I will pm you if you wanna talk more…but I am not going to put myself out their or show myself …by saying how much I make…what I do…and what kind of an education I have
i am in a scandanvian country… she wil die learning these north eauropean languages… good luck if you can….
jang nakonin… ba khater degara ke hech painwand ba shoma nadarand, yak degar ra tawhin nakonid…
nah we made up hahaha mariam is a cool girl lolz…just some normal afghan flare up :P that’s all cash jan
what are u laughing at >=( u wanna fight
not ashamed to punch a girl >=(
you love to fight with me for no reason…
you know it!
Rogue,,,,, maybe u didnt had a passport or Afghan Citizen Card,,, ( Which provided from UNHCR+Pakistan Gov ) few days ago i went to Pakististan Islamabad i had a Afghan Citizen Card i got a room as rent in Islamabad G-9 ( Karachi Company ) ,,,,, u know Pakistan gave us shelter more then 30 Years,,,, we need to respect them,,,,
@Ando, if your are not a fake: First you have to change yourself into an afghan before you can realize your intention to marry an afghan woman in afghanistan. Second: When you open someone the entrance to your captalistic world, who was not used so far to captalistic habits he will faster get used to that habits than learning your scandinavic language.
lol faqat ke afghanistan yak foroshgah basha wa mardomaish bare kharid o forosh
afghanistan is not a store where u can “buy” a woman to marry u …
materialistic thinking dont have western or eastern … in afg there are also many people who think materialistic…
it depends on the human being itself…not on from which country they are